Redefine Self Care Take Care of Your Kids' Mom

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“Self-love is asking yourself what you need – every day – and then making sure you receive it.” ~ Unknown ~ I hate the phrase “self care.” I hated it so much, that even as a sleep deprived, totally exhausted mother of 4 young kids, I wouldn’t have dreamt of indulging in anything of the sort. Self care was for other women, for weak women. I didn’t need something as frivolous as rest. I was strong, capable, and pretty committed to doing it all, all the time. I thought moms who never slowed down and were the most exhausted won. […]

You’re Probably a Shitty Mother Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” ~ Robert Fulgrum ~ Becoming a mother was the hardest adjustment of my life.  I wasn’t prepared for the suffocating, constant, never-ending demands of a newborn. I wasn’t ready for that feeling of vulnerability, responsibility, and fear that comes from your heart beating outside your chest.  All I ever wanted was to give up my career and have lots of babies. But learning to let go of myself, to open my heart and to survive exhaustion beyond comprehension (with leaking breasts, raging hormones and a […]

I Am Enough: Change Your Story

I Am Enough Change Your Story

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“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” – Anonymous –  I am not enough. I am a 36 year old confident, self assured, sassy, fit, financially stable, happily married mother of 4, and yet…I am not enough. I am stronger than I’ve ever been, physically and otherwise, and yet… I’m not enough. I have grown, achieved, and built a beautiful life I am proud of, and yet…I am not enough. No matter how hard I’ve worked to identify and modify my paradigms and limiting beliefs, no matter how far […]

learn how to received - start accepting graciously and stop refusing help

Learn How to Receive Start Accepting Graciously and Stop Refusing Help

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“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.” ~ Brene Brown ~ I don’t ask others for help. I don’t even like when someone offers to help. I hate when people want to bring a dish to party I’m hosting, or pitch to help with my kids, or heaven forbid clean my house in any way. I take it as an insult – an attack against my ability to do it all. I always sharply decline […]

5 things I'm giving up this Christmas season

5 Things I’m Giving Up this Christmas Season Along With Guilt, Comparison, and Expectations

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“There’s nothing sadder in this world than to awake Christmas morning and not be a child.” ~ Erma Bombeck ~ In my house, about 99.9% of Christmas magic making falls to me. I’ve always taken this job seriously since there are few things more special to little kids than the excitement and anticipation of Christmas. They don’t call it the most wonderful time of the year for nothing.  I remember the bristly needles of our fake tree, the shiny glass ball ornaments, and the sweet crooning of Nat King Cole…fat, sour cream cookies slathered with homemade buttercream frosting, chipped, gold […]

Stop Being a Good Girl, Let Go of the Rules #girlpower #strong #goodgirl #feminism

I’m Done Being a Good Girl Let Go of the Rules and Other's Expectations

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“As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable ‘good girl,’ they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships and what people think of them at all costs.” ~ Rachel Simmons ~ Good girls make their parents proud. They are polite. They stay out of trouble. They don’t push boundaries or question authority much. They work hard. They are kind and friendly. They are successful and put together and never too busy for those who need them. Good girls are selfless.  Good girls do what is expected of them because […]

Why Are We All Going Nowhere Fast? It's Time to Slow Down & Enjoy the View

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“I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it.”  ~Rosalia de Castro~ I’ve never thought much about the road of life.   Of course I had heard the old adage, “life is a journey, not a destination,” but never thought much beyond the idea to remember and enjoy it from time to time.  I supposed if anything, I thought of life as a highway built by those before me, a road smooth and even, constructed for speed and getting places.  Graduation, college, career, marriage, and family […]

Finding Happiness and Strength – Letting Go of Perfectionism #WCW Tara's Story

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Tara is an undeniable badass.  As a 36 year old mother, wife, private practice optometrist, and bodybuilder with abs that will make you weep with envy, it’s easy to assume we know her whole story.  We see women with a “perfect” life and perfect abs and think they are nothing like us. We don’t doubt they worked hard, and yet we see their journey as somehow separate from our own.   Some part of us assumes they are built from a tougher, more resilient mold that made their journey easier than ours could ever be. We don’t think about the […]