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Who am I? What is Your Identity Built Upon?

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“What if the reason we feel so lost has little do with motherhood and everything to do with the fact we never really knew ourselves to begin with?.” Emilie Karun At 12 years old I woke to an alarm before dawn. I hopped off the top bunk, quiet not to wake my younger sister as I dressed in jeans, thick socks, and an oversized flannel. I rode an old, dirty school bus caked with mud an hour out of town to a massive corn field in the middle of nowhere. We’d arrive just as the sun was breaking the horizon, […]

What Comes After the Happily Ever After When you have it all and want more?

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“When something is missing in your life, it usually turns out to be someone.” Robert Brault I’m not sure when I started to slip away, when I started to fade from my own life like the Kodachrome in an old photograph, but slip away I did. Perhaps it wasn’t motherhood that stole my existence. Perhaps I never really knew myself at all. I I didn’t see it then, we can’t really. I didn’t know my life wasn’t my own. I didn’t know with every step towards the life I thought I wanted, I became more of who the world expected […]

Stop Being So Selfish The World Needs You, Ready or Not

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“Focusing on your fear is selfish. Instead, focus on the good that will come when you walk through it.” You are terrified of being selfish. You lug around guilt, mommy martyrdom, and shame for being a human with needs. You feel terrible for letting your kids watch too much TV or eat cereal for dinner when you need a break. You compare yourself to every mother out there and chronicle all the ways you don’t measure up….and then you beat yourself up for not being better. You’re terrified of giving yourself what you need, taking a break, accepting help, or […]

Dear Husbands Your wife needs you to know this

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“Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all.” – Deborah Day I’m not sure where to begin, I just know begin I must, so here goes. This post is not for you, but for your partner. For your hard working, amazing husband who loves you, but doesn’t know how to support you, not in the way you really need. He provides and he protects and he does his best, and yet, in so many ways he is failing you. He is failing to […]

Making the Impossible, Possible Will You Find a Way or Find an Excuse?

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“Only those who can see the invisible, can do the impossible.” ~ Jeffrey Fry ~ I believe in radical responsibility. If it’s broke, fix it. If you don’t like it, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. We spend so much unnecessary time explaining all the reasons we can’t do something, that if we put half that energy into figuring out how to do it we might actually get something done around here. It’s easier to blame the baby, our husband, the economy, our shitty boss and everything else outside of our control then it is to […]

Stop Settling For Mediocrity Fight For a Life You Love

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“Don’t waste your life. No one chooses mediocrity but many settle for it. Never settle.” ~ Anonymous ~ “Dream big! Never give up! Follow your heart! You can accomplish anything!” Motivational platitudes are a dime a dozen. As often as we hear these inspirational cheers for greatness, you’d think more of us would actually live rock star lives, and yet, most of us are just getting by. Our lives are decent, good even and we’re perfectly happy right where we are. But… Why do we settle for good when life could be great? When did a good enough life become […]

It’s Not About Doing Different Things, It’s About Doing Things Differently You Don’t Have to Work So Hard

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“Working smart is harder than working hard. It’s just less visible, and we care too much about what others see.” I stood in a beautiful banquet hall, a microphone in my shaking hands, trying not to break down in tears. The new pink journal I had purchased for this event lay open on the table in front of me, covered in feverilously scribbled notes. Gorgeous, amazing, smart women from all over the globe filled the room and listened as the speaker and our mentor Gina Devee, grilled me. “You need to go back and reread history. You need to understand […]

Break Up With Busy Have more time and energy for what matters

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“It’s not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about?” – Henry David Thoreau A wise woman, my mentor Gina Devee once told me “busy is boring.” That really struck me. As a busy mom, I had prided myself on all the shit I was juggling at any given moment. I wasn’t a mom who had balance or time for myself. I was a “good” mom who did it all, and therefore, was proud of how busy I was. My busyness was proof that I was working hard. And yet, her words […]

You’re Probably a Shitty Mother Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” ~ Robert Fulgrum ~ Becoming a mother was the hardest adjustment of my life. I wasn’t prepared for the suffocating, constant, never-ending demands of a newborn. I wasn’t ready for that feeling of vulnerability, responsibility, and fear that comes from your heart beating outside your chest. All I ever wanted was to give up my career and have lots of babies. But learning to let go of myself, to open my heart and to survive exhaustion beyond comprehension (with leaking breasts, raging hormones and a […]

Conquer the Chaos Simple Ideas to Create Harmony in Your Life & Home

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“Anything worth doing good takes a little chaos.” – Flea – Yesterday was one of the pants on fire kinds of days, where you are almost literally running from one thing to the next. I made the grave error of not getting up at 4:30 am because well, you know SLEEP, and I paid the price the rest of the morning. No time for coffee or day planning, which I’ve learned is critical for my sanity and therefore, my day was insane. My 10 year old woke up on the wrong side of the bed, a feat that is impossible […]

Nothing Changes Until You Do If You Want to Change Your Life, You Need to Change

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“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett – I was running. The day glorious. The spring air was clean and fresh, new signs of life popped up in the neighborhood all around me, green tulip shoots poked through dead mulch and tiny, yellow forsythia buds were beginning to emerge. As I rounded a corner, my brow sweaty, lungs and heart pumping, I felt the fire of life beating within. The music blasted in my ears, my legs pushed me forward with every stride, and my head, oh my head was the […]

I Am Enough Change Your Story

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“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” – Anonymous – I am not enough. I am a 36 year old confident, self assured, sassy, fit, financially stable, happily married mother of 4, and yet…I am not enough. I am stronger than I’ve ever been, physically and otherwise, and yet… I’m not enough. I have grown, achieved, and built a beautiful life I am proud of, and yet…I am not enough. No matter how hard I’ve worked to identify and modify my paradigms and limiting beliefs, no matter how far […]

The Power of Belief: How to Change Your Life Right Now

The Power of Belief: How to Improve Your Life Right Now Chose Happiness, Release Fear, and Kick Ass

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“Whatever you believe to be true, whether it is true or not; if you believe it, then to you it becomes the truth.” ― Stella Payton It seems there is always something we long to change in our life. We want more money, more love, less debt, better behaved children, and smaller jeans. Most of us know it’s up to us to make change, we don’t sit around and wait for things to get better, we put our focus and energy into our actions in order to bring about that change. And while that’s all well and good, the reality […]

How Do I Make Change That Actually Lasts? Letting Go of the After and Falling in Love With the Process

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“All of us every single year, we’re a different person. I don’t think we’re the same person all our lives” Steven Spielberg It’s a new day, a new year. The promise of fresh starts and clean slates dangle before our eyes. The possibilities seem endless, for certainly THIS will be the year of big magic, life altering change, and boundless accomplishments. What is it about a new year that gets our insides churning? Our blood is pumping and bodies primed with enthusiasm to finally reach our true potential. And yet, we all know how this story ends. We all have […]