Making the impossible, possible

Making the Impossible, Possible Will You Find a Way or Find an Excuse?

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“Only those who can see the invisible, can do the impossible.” ~ Jeffrey Fry ~ I believe in radical responsibility. If it’s broke, fix it. If you don’t like it, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. We spend so much unnecessary time explaining all the reasons we can’t do something, that if we put half that energy into figuring out how to do it we might actually get something done around here. It’s easier to blame the baby, our husband, the economy, our shitty boss and everything else outside of our control then it is to […]

I Create My Reality

I Create My Own Reality So I'm Gonna Make it a Good One

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“Be careful how you interpret the world: it really is like that.” ~ Erich Heller ~ I choose my beliefs carefully. I’ve spent a lifetime curating them, deciding what fits me best, what works well, and what just doesn’t align with who I want to be. It’s a daily practice, a habit really, of paying attention to the direction of my thoughts. Every single morning before dawn, I tip toe downstairs, make a pot of coffee, and get settled in at my desk in the dark, pre-dawn hours. I open up my heart and I journal out my fears. I […]

Do What You Love and Do It On Your Terms #WCW Natalie's Story

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Natalie does design and motherhood on her terms, without apology or permission.  A mom of 2, Natalie reminds us that motherhood doesn’t have to be boring or cookie cutter, and neither does your home. Natalie has not only the courage to create totally unique, bold, inspiring spaces but a life that is her own as well. Her secret to balancing daily life and an exploding business? Hiring all the help she can as fast as she can, without guilt. Natalie’s story of following your nagging passion, staying true to yourself, and having fun in this life will remind you saying […]

Stop Settling For Mediocrity Fight For a Life You Love

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“Don’t waste your life. No one chooses mediocrity but many settle for it. Never settle.” ~ Anonymous ~ “Dream big!  Never give up!  Follow your heart! You can accomplish anything!” Motivational platitudes are a dime a dozen. As often as we hear these inspirational cheers for greatness, you’d think more of us would actually live rock star lives, and yet, most of us are just getting by.  Our lives are decent, good even and we’re perfectly happy right where we are. But… Why do we settle for good when life could be great?  When did a good enough life become […]

Argue for Your Limitations & You Get to Keep Them Let Go of Who You Think You Are to Uncover the Real You

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“Paradigms are like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription. That lens affects how you see everything else.” ~  Sean Covey ~ I am 6 years old… I am running and screaming around the small dining table in our kitchen. My sister Annie is chasing her prey, hands and mouth open wide as she tries to catch and then bite me. She is laughing and also serious, enjoying the thrill of tormenting her older sister, but she will indeed sink her baby teeth into my flesh should […]

F*@k the Fairytale

F*@k the Fairytale Motherhood isn't Always Your Happily Ever After

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“As for fairy tales, he understood that they were reflections of the people who had spun them, and were flecked with little truth.” ~ Laini Taylor ~ Once upon a time, a little girl grew up, married her prince, had lots of babies and lived happily ever after. That’s pretty much how I thought life was supposed to go. I mean, sure I’d kiss a few frogs along the way, get a degree and a job for a while, but the ultimate goal was a husband, house, and babies. Life would be happy and full. I’d spend my days reading books, […]

The Crushing Weight of Guilt and how to begin letting it go

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“Guilt’s just your ego’s way of tricking you into thinking that you’re making moral progress. Don’t fall for it, my dear.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert ~ It happened again just this morning. I rushed around, getting my kids back to school after an extended spring break. I was proud everyone had clean underwear and that we had gotten to school on time, but there I was again, looking at my daughter’s preschool teacher with a blank stare and the familiar “oh shit” hot embarrassment flushing through me. “You didn’t forget it’s your day to bring snacks did you?” she asked.  I wanted […]

It’s Not About Doing Different Things, It’s About Doing Things Differently You Don’t Have to Work So Hard

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“Working smart is harder than working hard. It’s just less visible, and we care too much about what others see.” I stood in a beautiful banquet hall, a microphone in my shaking hands, trying not to break down in tears.  The new pink journal I had purchased for this event lay open on the table in front of me, covered in feverilously scribbled notes. Gorgeous, amazing, smart women from all over the globe filled the room and listened as the speaker and our mentor Gina Devee, grilled me. “You need to go back and reread history.  You need to understand […]

Climb the damn mountain: stop denying your desires

Climb the Damn Mountain Stop Ignoring Your Desires

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“Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.” – Jack Kerouac I once read the business of life is the acquisition of memories.  I like this. It’s simple and easy to understand. It’s wildly empowering. It relieves the pressure of achieving great worldly success and if you let it, can motivate you to lead a life worth remembering. If our focus shifts away from struggle and hard work and towards memory making, everything changes. If we begin following our desires and listening to our soul’s […]

You’re Probably a Shitty Mother Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” ~ Robert Fulgrum ~ Becoming a mother was the hardest adjustment of my life.  I wasn’t prepared for the suffocating, constant, never-ending demands of a newborn. I wasn’t ready for that feeling of vulnerability, responsibility, and fear that comes from your heart beating outside your chest.  All I ever wanted was to give up my career and have lots of babies. But learning to let go of myself, to open my heart and to survive exhaustion beyond comprehension (with leaking breasts, raging hormones and a […]

5 things I'm giving up this Christmas season

5 Things I’m Giving Up this Christmas Season Along With Guilt, Comparison, and Expectations

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“There’s nothing sadder in this world than to awake Christmas morning and not be a child.” ~ Erma Bombeck ~ In my house, about 99.9% of Christmas magic making falls to me. I’ve always taken this job seriously since there are few things more special to little kids than the excitement and anticipation of Christmas. They don’t call it the most wonderful time of the year for nothing.  I remember the bristly needles of our fake tree, the shiny glass ball ornaments, and the sweet crooning of Nat King Cole…fat, sour cream cookies slathered with homemade buttercream frosting, chipped, gold […]

I'm a good enough mother

I’m a Good Enough Mother And Done Worrying About How to Be a Good Mom

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“The very fact that you worry about being a good mom means you already are one.” ~ Jodi Picoult ~ I’ve wanted to be a good mother since I was a little girl. I imagined a big happy family, chicken roasting in the oven on Sundays, homemade lunches with scribbled love notes, and daily peace, joy, and contentment. Fast forward 30 years and my life is more like a Jackson Pollack painting than a Normal Rockwell. It’s colorful chaos, a brilliant and beautiful collaboration of messes, motion, and madness.  There’s lots of yelling and negotiating, noise and anger, disappointments, struggles […]

Stop Being a Good Girl, Let Go of the Rules #girlpower #strong #goodgirl #feminism

I’m Done Being a Good Girl Let Go of the Rules and Other's Expectations

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“As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable ‘good girl,’ they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships and what people think of them at all costs.” ~ Rachel Simmons ~ Good girls make their parents proud. They are polite. They stay out of trouble. They don’t push boundaries or question authority much. They work hard. They are kind and friendly. They are successful and put together and never too busy for those who need them. Good girls are selfless.  Good girls do what is expected of them because […]

Finding Happiness and Strength – Letting Go of Perfectionism #WCW Tara's Story

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Tara is an undeniable badass.  As a 36 year old mother, wife, private practice optometrist, and bodybuilder with abs that will make you weep with envy, it’s easy to assume we know her whole story.  We see women with a “perfect” life and perfect abs and think they are nothing like us. We don’t doubt they worked hard, and yet we see their journey as somehow separate from our own.   Some part of us assumes they are built from a tougher, more resilient mold that made their journey easier than ours could ever be. We don’t think about the […]