Life is What Happens When We’re Making Other Plans #WCW Abbey's Story

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Abbey’s podcast, Mimosas With Moms, is a must listen for mommas looking to bond and learn new ideas in a judgement free zone. Abbey knows a lot about judgement, as a young, single mom, she faced more than her fair share. And yet, even though life worked out so much different than she ever imagined, she got exactly what she didn’t know she needed. Abbey’s commitment to her own dreams, to pushing past obstacles, excuses, and other’s opinions got her where she is today. Abbey’s story is a powerful reminder that life is what happens when we’re making other plans. […]

Making the impossible, possible

Making the Impossible, Possible Will You Find a Way or Find an Excuse?

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“Only those who can see the invisible, can do the impossible.” ~ Jeffrey Fry ~ I believe in radical responsibility. If it’s broke, fix it. If you don’t like it, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. We spend so much unnecessary time explaining all the reasons we can’t do something, that if we put half that energy into figuring out how to do it we might actually get something done around here. It’s easier to blame the baby, our husband, the economy, our shitty boss and everything else outside of our control then it is to […]

I Create My Reality

I Create My Own Reality So I'm Gonna Make it a Good One

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“Be careful how you interpret the world: it really is like that.” ~ Erich Heller ~ I choose my beliefs carefully. I’ve spent a lifetime curating them, deciding what fits me best, what works well, and what just doesn’t align with who I want to be. It’s a daily practice, a habit really, of paying attention to the direction of my thoughts. Every single morning before dawn, I tip toe downstairs, make a pot of coffee, and get settled in at my desk in the dark, pre-dawn hours. I open up my heart and I journal out my fears. I […]

Own Your Body, Own Your Gifts, & Own Your Orgasm #WCW April's Story

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I found April’s Instagram page on the recommendation of a friend and instantly fell in love. April runs The Vagina Blog and is THE resource for everything you need to know about your lady bits. Her page is hysterical, educational, so relatable and totally important in this era of fake news (and fake orgasms). As a doula, a birth photographer and a birth assistant to a midwife, she’s seen a lot of vaginas.  She covers maturation and menstruation, incontinence and pessaries, sex before, during and after pregnancy, childbirth and so much more.  I’m personally a fan of all the interesting and eclectic […]

Do What You Love and Do It On Your Terms #WCW Natalie's Story

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Natalie does design and motherhood on her terms, without apology or permission.  A mom of 2, Natalie reminds us that motherhood doesn’t have to be boring or cookie cutter, and neither does your home. Natalie has not only the courage to create totally unique, bold, inspiring spaces but a life that is her own as well. Her secret to balancing daily life and an exploding business? Hiring all the help she can as fast as she can, without guilt. Natalie’s story of following your nagging passion, staying true to yourself, and having fun in this life will remind you saying […]

Stop Settling For Mediocrity Fight For a Life You Love

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“Don’t waste your life. No one chooses mediocrity but many settle for it. Never settle.” ~ Anonymous ~ “Dream big!  Never give up!  Follow your heart! You can accomplish anything!” Motivational platitudes are a dime a dozen. As often as we hear these inspirational cheers for greatness, you’d think more of us would actually live rock star lives, and yet, most of us are just getting by.  Our lives are decent, good even and we’re perfectly happy right where we are. But… Why do we settle for good when life could be great?  When did a good enough life become […]

F*@k the Fairytale

F*@k the Fairytale Motherhood isn't Always Your Happily Ever After

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“As for fairy tales, he understood that they were reflections of the people who had spun them, and were flecked with little truth.” ~ Laini Taylor ~ Once upon a time, a little girl grew up, married her prince, had lots of babies and lived happily ever after. That’s pretty much how I thought life was supposed to go. I mean, sure I’d kiss a few frogs along the way, get a degree and a job for a while, but the ultimate goal was a husband, house, and babies. Life would be happy and full. I’d spend my days reading books, […]

Climb the damn mountain: stop denying your desires

Climb the Damn Mountain Stop Ignoring Your Desires

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“Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.” – Jack Kerouac I once read the business of life is the acquisition of memories.  I like this. It’s simple and easy to understand. It’s wildly empowering. It relieves the pressure of achieving great worldly success and if you let it, can motivate you to lead a life worth remembering. If our focus shifts away from struggle and hard work and towards memory making, everything changes. If we begin following our desires and listening to our soul’s […]

Dear Vivienne A letter to my daughter and all young girls

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“As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.” ~ Jessica Kirkland ~ Dear Vivienne, The day you were born I knew I had to do better.  I gazed into your bright eyes and inhaled the earthy, pungent smell of new life still fresh on your waxy skin. You arrived precisely when I needed to step into my own new life…. a life that wasn’t limited by my fears, my need to please, or other’s expectations. As I thought of all the things I wanted to tell you, I knew instead it was time for me to become […]

Nothing Changes Until You Do If You Want to Change Your Life, You Need to Change

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“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett –  I was running. The day glorious. The spring air was clean and fresh, new signs of life popped up in the neighborhood all around me, green tulip shoots poked through dead mulch and tiny, yellow forsythia buds were beginning to emerge.  As I rounded a corner, my brow sweaty, lungs and heart pumping, I felt the fire of life beating within. The music blasted in my ears, my legs pushed me forward with every stride, and my head, oh my head was the […]

The Power of Belief: How to Change Your Life Right Now

The Power of Belief: How to Improve Your Life Right Now Chose Happiness, Release Fear, and Kick Ass

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“Whatever you believe to be true, whether it is true or not; if you believe it, then to you it becomes the truth.” ― Stella Payton It seems there is always something we long to change in our life.  We want more money, more love, less debt, better behaved children, and smaller jeans. Most of us know it’s up to us to make change, we don’t sit around and wait for things to get better, we put our focus and energy into our actions in order to bring about that change.  And while that’s all well and good, the reality […]

Leaping Into the Unknown: Moving to Ghana #WCW Mary Beth's Story

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What do you call a mom and a successful Physician’s Assistant who leaves her career and moves her family literally around the globe to Ghana, Africa?  Mary Beth.  You call her Mary Beth, because she is an everyday wife and mother just like you and I who had the courage to take a path as unexpected and crazy to her as it seems to us. Despite an initial reaction of “hell no!” when her husband proposed the move (which was an awesome opportunity for his career), Mary Beth eventually came to face her fears, challenge her assumptions, and considered what […]

Choosing adoption in the face of infertility #adoption #infertility #internationaladoption #fostercare

Embracing Adoption in the Face of Infertility #WCW Rachael's Story

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Rachael’s story is a powerful reminder of our ability to overcome life’s hardest setbacks with bravery, love, and utter fearlessness. When Rachael and her husband couldn’t conceive a much wanted baby, even with all the help science had to offer, they found the courage to let go of what they thought they wanted to embrace what they really needed. Learning to surrender and be open to the scary unknown is not something most of us have the strength to do. After hundreds of hours of paperwork, international travel, rejection, fostering over 20 kids, failed adoptions, heartbreak and truckloads of criticism, […]

How to update your wardrobe without buying a thing #fashion #clothes

Update Your Wardrobe Without Buying a Thing Why You Already Have All The Clothes You Need to Look Good, Feel Good, and Be Awesome

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“Fashion you can buy, but style you possess. The key to style is learning who you are. It’s about self expression and, above all, attitude.” ~ Iris Apfel ~ You want to update your wardrobe because it sucks. You absolutely never have anything to wear. You struggle to find an outfit no matter how many clothes you have. You always wonder what others will be wearing and you rarely feel good in anything. I feel you. I cannot believe I’ve been putting myself through this shit for 20 years.  I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to realize what utter […]

Stop Being a Good Girl, Let Go of the Rules #girlpower #strong #goodgirl #feminism

I’m Done Being a Good Girl Let Go of the Rules and Other's Expectations

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“As girls grow up and download what it means to be a culturally acceptable ‘good girl,’ they learn to please others at the expense of themselves. They worry about protecting relationships and what people think of them at all costs.” ~ Rachel Simmons ~ Good girls make their parents proud. They are polite. They stay out of trouble. They don’t push boundaries or question authority much. They work hard. They are kind and friendly. They are successful and put together and never too busy for those who need them. Good girls are selfless.  Good girls do what is expected of them because […]

Write Your Own Happily Ever After Identifying and Letting Go of Our Inherited Narratives

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“If you own the story, you get to write the ending.” ~ Brene Brown ~ I don’t know many stories that begin ‘Once Upon a Wednesday’, and yet every story worth telling begins on an ordinary day, a Wednesday perhaps, in the middle of an ordinary week, in an ordinary month of an ordinary year within a very ordinary life.   I am an ordinary character in this ordinary life, a Midwestern, brown eyed girl, raising babies in a sleepy Midwestern town in the the heart of corn country. Each day is mostly the same, each year the same as […]